In honor of middle child’s day coming up, I wanted to write something special for my middle child, Sullivan, from his middle-child mother. Everything you have heard about middle children is true. We are fabulous.
I have always told you that the middle is a very special place to be. I am the only one in my whole family with an older brother, older sister, younger brother, and younger sister. And you are the only one in your family with an older AND younger brother. How many people can say that? And since we are constantly forced to relate to the older and younger siblings it leaves us highly adaptable. Charles Darwin (also a middle child) once said that it is not the most intelligent of the species that survive, but the most adaptable. We are totally going to make it through the zombie apocalypse.
We are also over-achievers and pretty darn funny. Would someone please notice us, damn it? I notice you, Sullivan, I really do. You are both funny and smart without realizing it. I love your facial expressions and comedic timing, and your quiet way of recalling almost any fact you have ever known.
We go with the flow. Pretty much the only thing that bothers you is getting up before 7 am. We are used to having to be pulled along with older and younger siblings, so change is no big deal. Studies have shown that middle children are more open to new ideas than any other birth order. It’s science!
We are super social in an attempt to gain the love and affection that is lacking at home. I am not sure that you have ever met anyone that does not know every random fact about you. You have friends everywhere you go, and you always will. I am not going to lie, though, it does cause me concern when you rattle off our address and phone number to middle-aged men in the elevator.
We root for the underdog and we have a strong sense of justice, because, we ARE the underdog and we are often the recipients of unjust circumstances. I agree that it is unfair that the TV is dominated by shows for the “baby” or video games in which you can never gain control of the controller by virtue of you being the little brother. That is why I promised you the TV all tomorrow morning, but we both know that will likely not happen, and we both know you will be okay with that. When I was younger and more irritated about my unfair treatment, I told my dad, “You never did anything for me or helped me like everyone else.” He said, “We never needed to.”
We are great leaders. I am not sure why, but more than half of our presidents (including Abraham Lincoln and John F Kennedy) have been middle children. No pressure, though. Okay, a little bit of pressure.
Other famous middle kids: Nelson Mandela, Warren Buffet, Bill Gates
So there you have it, Sullivan, we are like the unsung heroes of the family, dripping with good looks and charisma, of course.